Montecristo Captain Quixote

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The World Line of the Horizon Star

Some would say I was a lost man in a lost world


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Montecristo Captain Quixote
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Not for the last time, he found himself wondering what else could go wrong.

I am still sitting here going through craigslist looking for housing in the Bay Area. I have discovered that house-hunting can be a discouraging thing. Right now I am renting a reasonably nice house on a quiet street in a small town. It has two bedrooms, one and a half baths and has a fireplace. I am paying about a half of what I will be paying after moving closer to Alameda. I'm finding rat-holes going for what I am paying here in the Central Valley. I have yet to dive in and go checking out the prospects. I am going over to the Bay Area tomorrow and pick up some local papers to see if I can also find some more options. There are not a great number of houses for rent for what I want to pay, and I fear that they will be rat-holes unless I am willing to pay more about $300 more a month. Bleah.

I really have not a great deal of knowledge for what I am doing. What percentage of income do people usually put into shelter? Here's a question for anyone reading this: What kind of accommodations do you have and what percentage of your income do you put towards keeping them? I'm looking to put about a quarter of my gross into housing, but I fear that may be a bit low in that it may not get me what I want. What is worse is that I'm not really sure that a house is what I need. I find that I like my house. It has been my home for the past seven years and I have gotten used to having a yard to call my own.

I guess one of the most annoying things about being in this situation is dealing with the idea that life has changed in an undesirable way for me, and no matter how good I can make things turn out eventually, there are several problematical things which require a solution right now...and they were not really anticipated and certainly not welcome. I have fallen so far. Everything is gone. Other than having about three times the income I did then, everything has been reduced to the circumstances in which I found myself immediately after graduating college. Wrong. I also had a girlfriend then. How's that for discouraging? I am in worse shape now. It also does not help that I have no friends in proximity, either. Everyone I know is more than one hundred miles from here, and most of my best friends are hundreds or even thousands of miles away. I have no idea why my relationships tend to be like that. It's really strange, when I think about it. I guess it never really occurred to me that this was strange when I had my family around me. This house has become so damned empty. I can go anywhere, and do anything. I am free now, and yet I have no idea where to start. Perhaps I do need an apartment instead of a house. The maintenance is a lot easier and at least there are people nearby. Usually, I'm not much of an extrovert. I generally don't socialize a lot unless people look me up first. Nevertheless, this is getting downright corrosive to my psyche.

On the other hand, I remember being so glad to finally get out of living in an apartment. It was like living in the dorms at school, except without all the fantastic socialization. Yes, I know, that was probably my fault that my former apartment life was not that social, but there it is. On the other hand, I also remember how good it was to get off campus and into a house my final year. I'm not so sure I want to admit defeat, to go backwards while there is still the possibility that I can just refuse to surrender and keep that one thing, a house, to say that I have not lost everything. Perhaps I am just deluding myself.


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I'm sorry you're going through this. I watched my dad go through it and I know that my ex-husband went through the same thing after his first marriage crumbled. In fact, I think most guys get the short end of the stick when it comes to divorce.

But no matter how bleak it is right after the breakup, it always gets better and I've watched every single one of them bounce back. It does take awhile, but it does happen. I know that you know this already, but sometimes it takes a friend to point it out to you.

And really, with your drive, you can't help but succeed.

Now, as for my living situation, I own my home. I pay out a little under 20% of my annual income.

Yeah, I needed that. I bounce. I just get tired of collecting the bruises when I do. Heh heh. It will get better, yes, there is a part of me that does understand this, actually sees possible opportunities and adventures in this situation. Occasionally though, that guy gets shouted down by the other guy who was happy with what he had and dreads the prospects of being a physical and emotional refugee. It doesn't help that Mr. Adventure has no idea of what he wants now. Ah well, I'll come up with something. I always do.

Hi... I dropped into your journal via the SNSI friends page. I live in the Bay Area, too... at least for now, I do. I just lost my job, and I've decided to take the opportunity to go somewhere more affordable. I have heard that typically you should expect to pay 1/4 of your income for housing, but that in the Bay Area, 1/3 is more realistic. In my case, it's approaching 40%, and that's just got to change.

Best of luck to you.

Yeah, I'm thinking a third too, unfortunately! Good luck to you as well. Obviously we are in the prime position for understanding what a pain in the rear house-hunting can be!

Everything has it's ups and downs. Don't worry. It'll be fine.

Yeah, I'm sure it will. It just gets a little overwhelming sometimes. All this junk keeps happening at once. Heh heh, I need more arms, and some more socializing, dang it. Thanks for the encouragement. I appreciate it.

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