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The World Line of the Horizon Star

Some would say I was a lost man in a lost world


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Free at last! Free at last!

Let the joyous news be spread...The Wicked Old Witch at last is wed!
Someone dropped a spouse on her!
Ah! Shine, sweet freedom. The ex got herself hitched yesterday. Best wishes, Dear, and congratulations to the object of your affections. You've finally done the right thing.

Some might think that I wish my ex ill. Actually, nothing could be further from the truth. I'm truly happy for her. Let's hope she finally got it right this time, and that this sticks, if not just for her sake then at least for the children. It's a good thing. Despite our differences and what has gone down between us, she deserves the happiness she's able to secure for herself. She has many lovely and wonderful qualities, and I did love her dearly, despite what went down in our relationship. Maybe she'll find some stability. Everybody needs that, and I used to fear that she'd never have it. Sometimes, it is not only good, but a relief to be wrong.

The only difference I have with the woman is that she dinged me for spousal support, as if I owed her a refund on our lives together, after what she did. Well, that was a sting to my pride I do admit -- I even offered her more in child support to drop the spousal support, so nettlesome did I find that demand. As usual, she dug in her heels and stuffed her fingers in her ears. Cutting off her nose to spite her face is a favored tactic of hers. Heh. Now it's gone anyway, and I'm a few hundred a month better off and with more maneuvering room to get my house in order. It's a good thing. The divorce was very frustrating to me, like an itch I couldn't scratch.

It's also another kind of relief as well. For at least part of the time since she left, I have been worrying that her new "situation" would not work out and that she'd show up on my doorstep, my daughters in tow and I was terribly worried that I'd not be able to take them in while turning her away -- and I certainly would have needed to do that. We are not good for one another anymore, for whatever reason, if we ever were. I took her back twice before in our lives, and I don't regret that, really, but the third time would not be the charm. I think that I was a bit cutting and nasty in my dealings with her at times since she left, and perhaps I was attempting to convince myself that I needed to disabuse her of any possible regrets or changes of heart. More than likely, I was wrong to do that, as it wasn't necessary, in dubious hindsight. Maybe she's owed an apology for that, but I suspect that we're even, and I don't feel like negotiating with her over anything. A truce is fine with me. Certainly I have found this process rather painful and excruciatingly frustrating. It will be good to regard the woman as a fond, distant acquaintance, at last.

Now, it's a moot point. She is not my problem anymore. This is a profound relief to me. This break feels cleanly final, at long last. I needed my life back. She got her divorce in April of 2004 -- this one is all mine, at long last. As eithnepdb says, in a link from her bio page, "I do closure."


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I think I like eithnepdb!

Um... congratulations, or something. Basically, I'm happy for you. I am sure this is a HUGE relief. Big surprise for me to read, I didn't know she was getting hitched! You really must take time to update us little peepers into your life more often. :)

Happy Halloween... dress as a free man!!

Oh, Nancy eithnepdb is very cool, and a fun person. She's interesting to read.

As for the Halloween costume idea, I was always under the impression that you're supposed to dress up as someone/something you're not, and I am most certainly now free!

As for saying something about it earlier, well, I hardly have time to document my own shenanigans, let alone the antics of the ex wife. She has her own page for that. Until the deal went down, I was very Rhett Butler about it all. Now I'm just happy to have some closure and my wages back!

Congrate! I think it is wonderful that you can both move forward freshly into your new lives. I hope that this is a very good thing for your kids! And now, you will have extra $$$ to make that fireplace extra inviting for a very special someone of your own who will love you and appreciate you! Happyiest Hallowen! E.

Congratulations...and Happiest Halloween...I am still half asleep!

Well, I suppose the girls are happy, if their mother is content. She's lovely, when she's happy, but somewhat problematical, otherwise.

Congratulations! I'm glad you're finally free from getting raked over the coals.

Why do I do that? Because it feels so good when I stop!

Yes. I'm feeling lots lighter now.

It's nice to see that, even though the process was nasty, there is an end to it, and you can get on with your life.

My sister has been divorced from her abusive ex-husband for years, and she still can't get the bastard out of her life (although the nonexistent child support checks would make you think he lived on Mars).

I don't know why people continue to plague one another after a divorce. Certainly there is nothing more to say, after that.

Congratulations on being able to close this chapter! I wish her well in her marriage, for the children's sake. And of course, I'm delighted for you.

It's certainly one less thing with which I must concern myself.

Glad that you're feeling unemcumbered.

to see a man who understands, as it seems to me from "way over here," the art of the journey.

your daughters are paramount, i hope they are happy within their new "family" arrangement so they may thrive. i hope you are given the opportunities to be in touch with them, they will always need you.

your ex-wife. wow, what a long, strange, and no doubt -- stressful -- trip it's been. i can barely imagine, but i have had my marital woes, too, it's never easy to make certain choices.

and you.

you are free because you allow yourself to feel free, not only finacially freed up because of your ex-wife getting remarried, although i am quite certain that helps a great deal... just a thought that randomly popped into my head as i was reading this post.

i wish for you dreams... and wings... and a sense of inner peace as you travel this life.

hug.

Brenda

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