On the other hand, is it possible that I have come to think of our relationship as one that was not really workable? Were Laurel and I really good for one another, as a romantic couple? I do know that there were things wrong. Some of these things were certainly my own doing. Were there things she should not have done or should have done differently?
Laurel always was speaking about "containers" and how important they are. From what I understand so far, a "container" in the context of human interaction, is a set of rules or protocol for communication. I asked her about this concept before, and the discussion never really gets beyond a discussion of what they are. She talks about establishing them with all sorts of other people, most notably, with men with whom she went to therapy. Why did the two of us never establish anything like that? Does this seeming omission mean anything?