She won't discuss. She doesn't listen. She made erroneous presumptions and would not allow them to be corrected or even questioned. She violates the rules of good communication that she told to me and will not be called on it. She rushed to judgment and convicted without a trial, even misrepresented material facts in her righteousness and her fear. As long as she is right and I am broken we can talk but otherwise, my opinion is invalid. She can critically examine and judge every choice I have made in my life but I am "unqualified" to have my own opinion about her choices or even to question them. What kind of deal is that? Forget whether it is moral to accept such a deal; how moral is it to offer such a deal? She often treats me with contempt. How many times have I been on the dishing-out side of that? Maybe I just needed to learn what if feels like to be on the receiving end. It hurts to love someone who will not treat you as an equal. I can't help but see the poetic justice in that. It isn't easy to take, though I can't say I haven't learned anything.