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Better Terribly Late Than Never -- That Interview Meme: Answers to curtana's Questions

From the well-informed and deliciously humored curtana, stolen wholesale, this just in:
And finally, in the news: Avian flu arrives in UK via dead parrot. Seems suitable, somehow.

Yeah, I'd say that was pretty ironically appropriate somehow. Heh. I love Monty Python.

Speaking of curtana, about a year ago exactly, I asked to be interviewed by that worthy and then promptly got embroiled in something or other and totally forgot about it. Just recently, I remembered this meme again when I saw it cross eithnepdb's page. I was tempted to ask Nancy if she'd ask me some questions, when I remembered that I had played this game before, and felt guilty about never answering the original questions, so I went digging through my mail folders in an attempt to rectify that. If anyone is curious, behind the cut are curtana's questions and my very belated answers.

The rules:
  1. Leave a comment, saying you want to be interviewed.
  2. I will respond; I'll ask you five questions.
  3. You'll update your journal with my five questions, and your five answers.
  4. You'll include this explanation.
  5. You'll ask other people five questions when they want to be interviewed.
1. How do you think the way you were raised has affected the way you've tried to raise your children?
I think one of the most important lessons that I have picked up from my parents has been the fact that for many things, you don't really know that you can't do them until you've actually tried. I think a lot of my strength of will has come from their upbringing. My parents taught me that things are right for reasons, which can be questioned and understood and that rules are often made for good reasons, which can be apprehended and accepted, not just mindlessly adopted. I have tried to explain myself to my children when I set my own rules and limits as a parent. I have been firm with them, but I do not expect unquestioning obedience to whim. I want them to be good, strong people because they understand why it is important to be so, not just because I said so. I reason with them, even about things upon which I have no intention of changing my mind. My independence and ability to question the things many others take for granted and think outside the box, I got from my parents, and I think I have succeeded, to a certain satisfying extent, in passing these lessons on to my daughters. Heh. I'm very proud of them.
2. When were you most jealous of someone else, and what made you feel that way? How did you deal with it?
I don't succumb to jealousy easily and I can't really remember a time when I've been firmly in the grip of that particular feeling. I think I have envied a couple of men over certain remarkable and attractive women a couple of times in my life, but whereas those two feelings are similar, envy is a different vice than jealousy, and I don't really do the latter. I came out of a marriage of twelve years with a woman who cheated on me repeatedly over the years. Her actions corroded the trust between us to the breaking point, and I foolishly tolerated them when I shouldn't have. Those incidents hurt pretty bad but I don't think that my reaction to them constitutes jealousy. I don't think I'm a very jealous person. I have plenty of other vices. Perhaps you should have picked one of those. I'm not big on wanting the things I am not able to earn for myself. To me, jealousy seems to be self-denigrating. It is an admission that you desire what you cannot create for yourself or trade with others to get. It's self-defeating, in that it focuses attention upon a lack, a non-thing.
3. If you could live inside one work of visual art (painting, drawing, etching, whatever), which one would you choose, and why?
Oh, I don't know about living inside a painting -- such a thing would be awfully limiting. There are several though, which would be terribly interesting to visit. I think I'd like to spend some time in the middle of Gustav Klimt's Die Jungfrau. Why? Have you seen it? Okay, seriously, I've always been fascinated by Andrew Wyeth's "Christina's World." I'm terribly intrigued by unusual ways of looking at things and by people who notice things out of the ordinary. It is easy to look into that painting and follow the trail in the grass to the girl who crawled out there. I always imagined sitting down next to her and asking her what she was doing out in that field and what she thought of the perspective or the view from there, or just what was on her mind. Such a woman who would do such a thing has novel perspectives and interesting stories to tell, you can be sure.
4. What living person do you most admire, and why?
Well, when I was first asked this question, my grandmother was still alive, so that is who I'm going to pick. I've written about this woman in here before. She's very strong willed but she wasn't taciturn and crabby. She was sometimes reserved around people but a very fun loving person. She never took anything for granted or accepted a limitation or a failure without rising to the challenge -- the word "undaunted" would fit her well. She had a great sense of humor and a powerful curiosity. She had only seven years of schooling, and acquired an impressive stock of knowledge on her own recognizance. She was a determined individual, who interacted with the world on her own terms. She was neither too fearful nor too lazy to work hard for what she wanted, and she had the foresight to plan ahead and the persistence to stick to it until she accomplished the ends she set for herself.
5. What is your preferred writing tool, and why? Pen (what kind?), pencil, marker, crayon, etc?
Heh. That's an interesting question to ask. I love writing instruments of all kinds. One of my favorite stories as a boy in school was about a girl who found a magic pencil that caused whatever was drawn with it to become real. One of my earliest memories involves a time when I was three or four. I was drawing on a piece of paper and my mother asked me what I was doing. I told her that I was making "dilts." It turns out that I was punching the pencil through the paper and into the naugahyde hassock beneath my artwork. Years later, she asked me where in the world I had come up with the word "dilt", and I explained to her with hindsight colored by an adult understanding, that "dilt" is onomatopoeia for the sound that a pencil makes, going through naugahyde. I think I inherited my writing and drawing instrument fetish from my mother. She's a very artistic person who is always drawing and writing, and she has a love of pens. We're always showing and trading each other new pens and pencils. I have scads of pens, pencils, chalks, crayons, drafting instruments, templates, etc. As a boy I spent a lot of time sketching and writing. I'm always trying out new writing instruments. I judge them by the way ink flows or the kind of line they make on the paper. I value a good feel in the fingers and the way the shape of the barrel affords control of the point. I think that my most preferred weapon is a good mechanical pencil. I like the idea of erasing my mistakes. Presently, I use a Papermate G-Force 0.5mm lead mechanical pencil to visually render my abstract thoughts. Ever since my first drafting class in school, I've stopped using wooden pencils. My motto is: lumber is for making baseball bats and houses, not for writing.
Bonus time: The Fifty Superfluous Questions Meme, Via E-mail, Courtesy of My Mother and My Cousin, Lisa.
  1. First name?
  2. Were you named after anyone?
    Yes. My father.
  3. Do you wish on stars?
    No. If you really want something make it happen.
  4. When did you last cry?
    I don't remember...sometime within the last month or so, maybe.
  5. Do you like your handwriting?
    I suppose. It's okay. I'd like to have cooler penmanship though or skill with calligraphy.
  6. What is your favorite lunchmeat?
    Ham, salami, bologna, honey loaf, a couple of other ones.
  7. Birth date?
    October 24, 1963
  8. What is your most embarrassing CD?
    I think I have some Disney music around here, from when my daughters were little...
  9. Do you have a journal?
    Yup. It's online.
  10. Do you use sarcasm a lot?
    No, only for special occasions, like when I breathe. (just kidding)
  11. What are your nicknames?
    Nicknames don't stick very well to me. Montecristo counts, I guess. *snerk* A couple of un-reformable relatives and old friends refer to me as "Bobby" from when I was a boy, but I don't answer to it from anyone else.
  12. Would you bungee jump?
    I'd like to think I'd have the balls to do that...if it was the only way to avoid a horrible death.
  13. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?
  14. Do you think that you are strong?
    Depends on when I last had a shower... Depends upon what kind of strength is meant.
  15. What is your favorite ice-cream flavor?
  16. What's your shoe size?
  17. Red or pink?
  18. What is your least favorite thing about yourself?
    How often I succumb to arrogance or weakness of will.
  19. Who do you miss most?
    Most of my friends and relatives.
  20. Do you want everyone you send this to, to send it back?
    I don't care.
  21. What color pants and shoes are you wearing?
  22. What are you listening to right now?
    Frank Sinatra: "I Get A Kick Out Of You" (playing in my head)
  23. What was the last thing you ate?
    Budget Grommet Meal: Swedish Meatballs
  24. If you were a Crayon what color would you be?
    How the hell would I know, I'm a Crayon! Okay. Lightning-strike Blue.
  25. What is the weather like right now?
    Cool and clear. It's a marvelous night for a moondance...
  26. Last person you talked to on the phone?
    My friend, Robert G.
  27. The first thing you notice about the opposite sex?
    Eyes/Face, usually.
  28. Do you like the person who sent this to you?
    Oh yes, both of them, in spite of this.
  29. Favorite Drink? Beverage?
    Tequila or Rum / Coke
  30. Favorite sport?
    I don't have one
  31. Hair Color?
  32. Eye Color?
  33. Do you wear contacts?
  34. Favorite Food?
    Pizza, lasagna...don't make me pick!
  35. Last Movie You Watched?
    "The Bone Collector"
  36. Favorite Day Of The Year?
    Can't really say I have one.
  37. Scary movies or Happy Endings?
    They each have their place. I'm probably a little more partial to the latter.
  38. Spring or Summer Or Fall or Winter?
  39. Hugs Or Kisses?
    Yes, please.
  40. What Is Your Favorite Dessert?
    Strawberry Cheesecake!
  41. Who Is Most Likely To Respond?
    The two who sent this to me originally, because that's the only ones to whom I'm sending it.
  42. Who Is Least Likely To Respond?
    All of the people to whom I am not going to send this thing.
  43. What Book Are You Reading?
    Douglas R. Hofstadter: Godel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid
    (Yes, still. It's a big, meaty book and I haven't had a lot of time to read, lately.)
  44. What's On Your Mouse Pad?
    Water stains on gray cloth.
  45. What Did You Watch Last night on TV?
    I haven't watched broadcast or cable TV in two years, but I watched a movie last night on DVD, if that counts.
  46. What's in your CD player?
    Dust. I have over 2000 MP3 tunes on my harddrive, Baby!
  47. Favorite Sounds?
    Music of a wide variety. A woman's voice. Thunderstorms. The ocean.
  48. Rolling Stones or Beatles?
    Are you kidding? I like them both!
  49. Favorite scent?
    The air, after a thunderstorm. The ocean. Good perfume on skin.
  50. Favorite flower?
    Orchids. Apple blossoms. Anything that looks good and smells nice.
Tags: introspection, memes, ponderings and curiosity, values, who i am

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