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Oh Yeah, Ask Away, Bridge keeper, I'm Not Afraid! Interview Meme: eithnepdb's Questions

The Rules:
  1. Leave a comment, saying you want to be interviewed.
  2. I will respond; I'll ask you five questions.
  3. You'll update your journal with my five questions, and your five answers.
  4. You'll include this explanation.
  5. You'll ask other people five questions when they want to be interviewed.
1. Do you consider yourself open minded in general?
That's a trickier question than it sounds, in my case. I confess that I am terribly opinionated. I think a lot. I introspect a lot. I read a lot in lots of different subjects. I am often arrogant about what I know. It's a vice and a weakness of character, to a certain extent. I don't really like overly pushy people, and I try not to be pushy myself, but I've turned people off expressing my opinions, sometimes where they aren't even wanted, and I frequently castigate myself for it. Nevertheless, I like to think I give others a complete and fair hearing. I strive mightily not to let my feelings about something override the objective truth of what is. I second guess myself frequently and do make an effort to see the other side, when it is presented. It is a point of honor with me to admit when I am wrong, and I do so, frequently (it's a natural hazard of being opinionated and quick to speak). I worry a quite a bit about being irrationally attached to a position when I am incorrect or in the wrong. I strive to be open to the facts, and to be unafraid to change my mind in the face of contradictory evidence.
2. Do you think you'll ever marry again?
Wow. That's an complicated question. I really don't know the answer to that one. I loved being part of a family. I miss being a father in the day-to-day life of my daughters. Raising children is a rewarding job. I think that I'd like to be married again, but I worry about making a mistake again. Lately, I have become very used to living alone, but I treasure companionship, and occasionally in the odd moment, I really miss having someone with whom to share things, like conversation, and movies and good music... and life. My problem is that I am really a self-contained individual. I don't miss companionship until those moments when I really would like to have it, and that is not the time to do something about it. Heh. I'm a reasonably friendly person, but I just don't connect with a large range of people. I suppose that my opinion would change if I found someone with whom I had sufficient "resonance" -- they're out there, somewhere. The other day, my friend and fellow McGuffin partner, Don, told me that it takes as long after a divorce to get yourself back together as it was that you were married. He's divorced, and that's his story. I'm highly skeptical of that, as an accurate rule of thumb, but I figure everything in it's own time. I suppose I'll know when that is when it happens. I may or may not be quite there yet. Rushing things is probably not productive.
3. What's the scariest thing about launching your own business?
I'm not sure. The unknowns and the risks can be pretty scary, but I tend to land on my feet. Our corporate lawyer, (yet another Robert) told the four of us that starting up a business was a very stressful and divisive undertaking. He told us that if we were still friends in a few years then our group would be one of the exceptions to the rules. I think I have my priorities straight going into this deal. I'm determined to keep my friends. We're all in this to become successful and because we think McGuffin is a project that needs to be done by someone and it may as well be us -- because we can. If your business changes fundamentally who you are, then you've probably got some priorities turned around backwards -- the business should reflect who you are and your values, not the other way around. On a similar note though, if McGuffin is successful, it will multiply my standard of living several fold. It is easy to imagine making two, or even three, times what I do now, but it is very scary to contemplate making several more times than that, because it involves a scale of decision-making that is orders of magnitude greater than any with which I have had to deal before. In addition to the personal challenges presented by success, several people will be throwing in their lot with us to make this work, and the decisions of my partners and I will impact their lives as well. This thing is going to place large demands on me, and I am not certain what all of them are yet. I want to face the challenge, and see if I've got what it takes, but there are others along for the ride too, and we are all having to count on one another. It's going to be interesting.
4. What lessons do you hope to teach your children?
Be true to yourselves and do not evade reality. All else important in life, initiative, creativity, discipline, courage, honesty, happiness, self-esteem, integrity, etc. follows naturally from that. I think they're picking up on that quite well. I'm very proud of both of my daughters.
5. Brown shoes or black?
What an odd question. This is a chick question, right? I don't really have a preference. Whatever looks nice and feels comfortable flies for me. I have some wingtips in oxblood, some black running shoes and some comfortable brown suede shoes with a thick sole.
Tags: introspection, mcguffin, memes, ponderings and curiosity, who i am

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