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The World Line of the Horizon Star

Some would say I was a lost man in a lost world

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Montecristo Captain Quixote

A Discount Price for All Your Good Deeds

Shannon's birthday was Sunday. I called to say hi to her on Saturday and wish her happy birthday. I knew that I wouldn't catch her on Sunday. She had a couple of friends over on Saturday night. I suppose that Shannon was regaling them with tales from the anime convention that she went to in Bakersfield a couple of weeks ago. According to Crystal, her friends are into it just as much as Shannon is. I knew we let them watch too much Sailor Moon when she and Jackie were little.

Her mother got her an electric guitar for her birthday. Now she's set. Crystal sent me a picture taken with her phone in the hall outside of Shannon's bedroom showing Shannon and her new ax. The guitar really made Shannon's day. She named her guitar something in Japanese that means "Blue Knight" (Night?). I think it's funny that she names her guitars. INFP's are so anthropomorphic-minded. She's coming to spend Labor Day Weekend with me. She's promised to bring it with her and play some tunes for me. She plays a lot of Greenday tunes. It's a good thing. She's got a good ear and a pleasant voice. This is also good because if I didn't like the music I wouldn't bet on being able to talk her out of putting the guitar away for the duration of her visit here. Heh.

I got a text message from Jackie this morning. She needs my help to pay for some of her school books. Apparently, her mother is tapped. She's taking the last of her high school courses this semester via independent study. She's out with a lot more credits than she needs in December. She's got government, creative writing, and algebra II. She's also taking Spanish at a community college up there in Sacramento.

Last weekend she found a stray dog. Apparently, it's a mutt — a cross between a german shepherd and a golden retriever, mostly. Jackie spent most of the day Saturday picking, cutting, and brushing burs out of her coat and bathing the dog and applying flea and tick killer. She told me that the dog was really friendly and well-behaved. I think the two of them have really taken to one another. She had Crystal print up lots of "found" fliers and she went around the neighborhood hanging them up. Crystal figures from her observations that the dog has been living with people previously and that she probably hasn't been "in the wild" for more than two weeks or so.

This evening, when I called to talk to her about the books she needed and the money to get them she told me that she took the dog to the vet today to get her checked out. She sounded really down and when I asked what was up she told me that the vet told her that the dog has cancer. Apparently, there are tumors on the dog's right side. Jackie's going back to the vet to talk to him tomorrow about the prognosis. She's looking for options, probably prohibitively expensive ones for her even if there are any but I suspect that it doesn't look good even though the dog doesn't appear to be in any pain or having obvious symptoms, yet. I further suspect that whoever had the dog before abandoned her when they found out about the cancer.

About a month ago I was over on my friend shanmonster's page and saw that she was pimping for a local Canadian band called Johnny Hollow, even got injured while doing it. At any rate, I checked the Johnny Hollow MySpace page and I liked the four tunes I found there. So, I bought a copy of the CD. That was back at the end of July! It just got here today. The good news is that it was worth the wait. I like it! I love the voice of lead vocalist Janine White. The music is electronica and kind of dark but very intriguing. I can think of a couple of my friends who would likely be intrigued by it as well.

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The girls' mother is so "tapped" she can't pay for the children's school supplies, yet she is willing to take in a dog, with all the expenses that entails? Bite me. You already pay substantial child support; your ex-wife should be paying for the kids' book with that, having properly budgeted for this expense--which should not go to any of the kids she has with the other guy, nor her own personal items. She should not let the children be messengers, trying to get more money out of you. If anything, she should have had this discussion privately with you directly, so you would not be put on the spot.

Yes, what I spend on my daughters should be just for them. What is envisioned when law is written and courts decree is not always what actually comes to pass. If my dear ex's decisions result in her living a lower standard of living than me then my ladies will likewise have a lower standard of living in staying with her than they would have if they lived with me. It's their choice. They understand it. The courts do not care what happens to Dad's money once they've given it to Mom — unless one makes a legal fight out of it, which would only waste more money than it saves. Divorce is a real crap shoot, as I am sure you can attest: sometimes one party loses and sometimes the other party does. Law is a roulette wheel. I just do what I can for my girls when they need a little extra help. I've gotten pretty philosophical about the whole state of affairs, now that it's been five years "a done deal."

Jackie's been attempting to pay a lot of her own expenses out of money she makes working at Target. I'm pretty proud of her. I think, very soon, she's going to be confronting the hard reality that a pet is a large sometimes prohibitively large, expense. I have the sneaking suspicion that it's worse than that and she's going to end up with the dog needing to be euthanized anyway, because of the cancer progression. As Jackie is fond of saying, and has been since she was old enough to make complete sentences: "Life is hard." Heh.

Re: Money is fungible.

You are a good father. One of the reasons I didn't and haven't gone into to family law is that usually both parties bicker over money and forget about the children. Every one in awhile, you find a fellow like yourself!

Sorry to hear about the dog. Hopefully things will work out.

Re: Money is fungible.

It's easy for everyone and anyone to lose focus on things when money gets involved. It's not that people don't care, for the most part, but that money is the only objective benchmark upon which people can focus in a legal environment. It's all about hard objective numbers or it's about nebulous subjective qualities that are hard to define, much less adjudicate. Fortunately, despite our differences of opinion on quite a number of things both my ex and I have always tried to do our best for our daughters. It makes things easier to deal with.

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